The Philippines is a nation of warm, friendly people.
Should you ever be invited to a Filipino home for dinner, here are some things you might like to know to help you appreciate the culture of these people-loving, well-meaning hosts.
1. NEVER SAY NO. When you enter a FIlipino home and they are already eating, they will politely ask you to join them. Do not decline the invitation unless you have eaten already. The correct thing to say is, "Oh thank you, but I just finished my dinner."
However, if you have not eaten yet, you are expected to join them at the dining table.
2. A FRUIT SALAD IS NOT A SALAD. The Filipino Fruit Salad is a dessert made of a fruit blend (grapes, pears, papayas, pineapples, etc) combined with
heavy cream and sweetened condensed milk. Do not expect this before dinner. It will be served after dinner.
3. SOUP IS SERVED NOT BEFORE BUT AS PART OF THE MAIN COURSE. Most Filipino families prepare clear broth filled with meat and vegetables such as the Sinigang (Shrimp or Pork Ribs cooked in tamarind-based broth with swamp cabbage, radish, and tomatoes), Nilaga (Beef cutlets cooked in beef broth with onion, potatoes, and cabbage), or Bulalo (Beef Shank in beef broth with halved corn cob, string beans, and cabbage). These soupy dishes are heavy, flavorful, and filling. These come with sauces on the side such as toyomansi (blend of soy sauce and mid-sized lime) or calamansi't patis (fish sauce with mid-sized lime).
4. RICE IS A STAPLE. Pizza and pasta may be eaten either as snacks or alternative dinners. For most Filipino families, dinner comprises of moist, steamed rice and a viand (heavy, filling dish). Depending on the financial status of the family, the number of viands can increase or decrease.
5. SPOON & FORK. Most table settings comprise of spoon and fork, not chopsticks. If you need a knife, simply ask the host for one. Some hosts prepare knives while others don't; it depends on the practice of the family.
6. COMPLIMENT THE WOMAN OF THE HOUSE even if the maid did all the cooking.
7. DO NOT CANCEL AT THE LAST MINUTE. Chances are, the family prepared a lot for your coming. Microwave is never used for guests; all dishes are freshly cooked.
8. BRING DESSERT OR DRINKS like a bottle of wine to show gratitude and grace.
9. EXPECT A SUGAR OVERLOAD. Bread has sugar. Spaghetti has sugar, particularly for children's parties. In this nation, both the people and the food are sweet.
10. DO NOT ACCUSE FILIPINOS OF OVER-EATING. Should you be invited to spend a day with a Filipino family, do not be surprised to see the following:
Meal #1 - Breakfast: Rice with sunny side up egg and Tocino (sweetened, cured meat)
Meal #2 - Mid-morning snack: Arroz caldo (rice porridge with ginger and chicken) or Donuts
Meal #3 - Lunch: Rice with Adobo or Sinigang
Meal #4 - Mind-afternoon snack: Slice of pizza or a plate of pasta or local noodles
Meal #5 - Dinner: Rice with Caldereta (Beef stew in tomato sauce with olives, carrots, potatoes) or Fried Chicken
Meal #6 - Coffee with pastries or Suman at Latik (Sticky rice with caramelized coconut cream)